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<h3><a href="how-to-be-more-assertive.html">How To Be More Assertive</a></h3>
<p><a href="how-to-be-more-assertive-part1.html">
What is<br>assertiveness'
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Four styles
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Rights and<br>responsibilities
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Positive beliefs
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Being direct
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Expressing<br>disagreement constructively
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Managing the other<br>person's behaviour<br>by enforcing<br>a process
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Building rapport
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Focusing on facts
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Focusing on<br>consequences
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Stopping put-down<br>behaviour
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Text Book Techniques
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Personal<br>action planning
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 <h1>Positive Beliefs</h1>
 <h2>How To Be More Assertive: Part 4</h2>
<p>What you believe has a major impact on your behaviour, and your assertiveness.</p>
 
<p>Here are some examples of unassertive beliefs:</p>
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<li>"If someone refuses a request, it means they don't like me"<br><br>
<li>"They won't want to do that, so I won't ask"<br><br>
<li>"My needs are not as important as other peoples"<br><br>
<li>"I have no right to ask"<br><br>
<li>"I'd rather give in and avoid the conflict"<br><br>
<li>"If I ask, they'll think I'm being rude or bossy"
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<p>Here are some examples of aggressive beliefs:</p>
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<li>"People should always do what I ask"<br><br>
<li>"A refusal is an attack on me personally"<br><br>
<li>"My needs are more important than others'"<br><br>
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<p>What negative beliefs inhibit your assertiveness:</p>
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<p>Here are some examples of positive beliefs:</p>
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<li>"We may be at different levels in the organisation, but as people we both have rights & a right to our beliefs"<br><br>
<li>"If we both express our views, we can then explore ways of both getting what we want"<br><br>
<li>"I'll listen to what you have to say, and I'll expect you to listen to what I have to say"
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<p>What positive beliefs do you need to develop to become more assertive'</p>
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 <a href="how-to-be-more-assertive-part5.html" class=sidelink>How To Be More Assertive:<br>
 Part 5: Being Direct</a>

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