Each personality type can potentially irritate other people in their own particular way.
The potential ways in which an ESTJ can irritate others include focusing too much on the current task at the expense of broader interpersonal issues, being too blunt in giving criticism, not seeing the wood for the trees, not encouraging others to experiment or innovate, and not paying enough attention to others' feelings and values.
You can overcome personality type differences by learning about your similarities and differences with other people. This leads to greater understanding, appreciation, and respect. Also, if you learn to adapt your style this will make you more influential and respected.
There is a comprehensive guide on how to do this in the book Influencing People Using Myers Briggs. This is available as an option when you complete the personality test.
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